Make your home the center of activity. Instead of your child always being somewhere else, make your home the place they want to be with their friends.
Listen to your teen when they are ready to talk. Being approachable is the key even if it is 1 a.m. and you go to bed at 10 p.m. This gives you a chance to continue to build a close relationship with your child in the midst of their growing independence.
Be an imperfect parent. It isn’t about you being perfect. Admit your mistakes and don’t be afraid to say, “I am sorry.” Share stories about when you were a teen. Be real.
Spend time with your teen. Make it a point to notice what they do well. Be approachable. Guard against becoming a critical eyed parent that only notices mistakes and weaknesses. Be real with your teens: Real, Encouraging, Affirming, and Loving.
Expect the best from them. Keep your standards realistic. Expect them to make good choices. Research shows that daughters with affirming fathers are most likely to marry a guy with those qualities.
Don’t snowplow the roads of life for your teen. When they fail, let them experience the consequences. There is no better time for them to fail than when they are at home and have people who love them around who can help them get back on their feet.
Love and respect your mate. Young people learn how to treat their future spouse by watching you. Model the behavior you want your children to practice when they are married and have children of their own.
Never beat or bully your child into submission. Take time to think about what you will say or do and the outcomes you are looking for. Shepherds use their rod to guide their sheep, not to beat them into submission. As parents, our role is to guide our children and teach them how to live as productive citizens.
Pray for them daily. The teenage years can be very challenging. Make sure your child knows you are on their team and you love them unconditionally.